Only Do What Only You Can Do

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Only do what only you can do.  That means you need to let other people help you.  What?  Can’t we do it all?

Have you ever or do you currently experience the “I don’t need anyone to help me” syndrome?  I can personally say that’s how I used to run my life.  I felt like I had to do it all and couldn’t ask for help.  That’s because as a child I couldn’t.  There was no one there to help me.  I ended up going through a lot of my adult life not asking for help or doing things myself because I thought no one would

I remember when I got my Community College of the Air Force Associates Degree in Contracts Management.  We all went to the ceremony and I purchased and set up all the refreshments for afterwards.  I assumed no one cared enough to do it for me so if I wanted a party I’d have to do it myself.  My friends called me on it after the fact.

When I first started my TLN Live training I was running around doing everything and the crew finally told me “let the crew be the crew.”  Some of it is about control, not wanting to let go but some of it is also about some misguided thought about having to do it all.

I’ve personally had to work on that over the years.  I’m much better just ask my executive assistant and my crew.  If I go overboard, they remind me very quickly!

The bottom line is in the beginning of doing something you may need to handle some things yourself because of costs and savings.  However, as you progress it’s best to hand those things off or you will end up in overwhelm and never get anything done.

To Your Success


Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Veteran negotiation and contracts expert Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of “Think Like a Negotiator,” has over 30 years of experience crafting killer deals both stateside and internationally, many in excess of $100 million. She’s currently the CEO of Dynamic Vision International — a specialized consulting and training firm that helps individuals hone negotiation skills — as well as a nationally regarded keynote speaker, session leader and panelist on the Art of Negotiation. Eldonna may be reached online at

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