The Challenges Come in the Midst of a Purge

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Purge – to clear of something unclean or unwanted. Purge is taking place in my life. I have been going through and clearing out clutter, clothing and other things. On the other hand there are many non voluntary purges going on as well. The saying “when it rains, it pours” comes to mind about right now and I’m ready for the sun to shine.

I got really sick on the way to Nor Cal last month. It felt like it was a serious purge of emotions. My phone dropped in water and purged (lost) all my data. Now ALL of my websites were hacked. One is completely wiped out. They are hosted in different places.

Someone I was teaming with on a contract basically bailed on the bid we were working on and because of his position I am unable to bid so lost the potential of that job. Another one of my contracts expired in Dec and they are not going to talk about extending it until Feb.

Might as well throw in my back going out, too.

Despite this and many other significant challenges happening right now I still have a positive attitude and am grateful for the things I have. I still have my house, my health and my family. Many have lost some or all of those things recently so my few challenges pale in comparison. That doesn’t mean my challenges aren’t tough for me right now with these and several other serious problems that I’m not going to share hitting me all at once.

People think that they shouldn’t share their struggles or that it means they are a failure or weak or their image will be tarnished somehow. Like the happy stuff we put on social media has to be the only thing we share to make it look like we have no problems. As if having problems are forbidden.

I share my struggles so others can see that despite my success, I still struggle with things in life. We all do. I trust God has my back. Why all this stuff is hitting me at once I don’t know. I cried out to God yesterday when the guy bailed on the bid.

My 2018 goals were simply a prayer. God, please help my unbelief and lack of faith, take my fear and doubt and help me to trust you more, hear your voice clearly and respond with less lag time” Amen.

The way I handle this today will help me keep motivated for tomorrow. I am not curling up in a ball all defeated. I’m doing the “suck it up buttercup” type of attitude and moving forward to make today better than yesterday.

Tomorrow is a new day to serve however I can. Tomorrow it will be for speakers who want to learn how to have breakout session success. If you want to join me for that webinar the link is here:

Next month its a mission trip to Kenya to serve there however I can be used. I am seeking donations to get me there and cover my travel, food and lodging:

There’s a saying in a program I’ve been part of for many years that says “when I got busy, I got better.” That busy means serving others. If things are tough in your world, help someone else who is worse-off than you. It will make you feel on top of the world.

Despite the storms, I have an umbrella and will ride out the storms as they come and know that this to shall pass. My mindset is my greatest asset and I have keep focus on the positive. What I focus on expands and if I focus on the negative, I will get more negative.

Today I choose to be happy no matter what.

To Your Success


Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Veteran negotiation and contracts expert Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of “Think Like a Negotiator,” has over 30 years of experience crafting killer deals both stateside and internationally, many in excess of $100 million. She’s currently the CEO of Dynamic Vision International — a specialized consulting and training firm that helps individuals hone negotiation skills — as well as a nationally regarded keynote speaker, session leader and panelist on the Art of Negotiation. Eldonna may be reached online at

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