Thoughts From A Mother

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The photo is a throwback to the mid 90’s – promotion to Technical Sergeant. It was the hardest rank to get promoted to in the Contracting Career field at that time. Balancing the military and parenting was tough. I made some decisions based on what was best for my kids. I didn’t take some jobs that would have taken me away from them more and enabled them to live a good life with many experiences in the military including 4 years in the UK which would have been 8 had it not been for significantly messed up leadership. I could have gone to another base but chose to go to the base where my ex husband was so the kids could see him more, in the middle of nowhere, but it was better for them.

Could I have done things better? Certainly. Who couldn’t say that? There are times when the thoughts of all my failures want to bombard me and tell me I didn’t succeed, I screwed everyone’s lives up by my choices etc etc. You can’t focus on that stuff. You have to ask forgiveness of those you may have harmed in some way, forgive those who have harmed you and most of all forgive yourself. God forgives us our trespasses if we ask but we oftentimes fail to forgive ourselves.

Mother’s Day is Sunday and if you are a mother, be proud of yourself. If you are estranged from your kids do what you need to do to make it right if possible. If you have a mother even if she is or was broken (as mine was from alcoholism) think of the good things about you that my have come from her and be grateful. If you are estranged from your mother, consider forgiving her and letting go of the resentment you have towards her. She did the best she could with what she had. That’s how I choose to frame my mother.

If you have a mother, the thing she most likely wants to hear is that you are proud of her, you love her and you are grateful for her.


Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Veteran negotiation and contracts expert Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of “Think Like a Negotiator,” has over 30 years of experience crafting killer deals both stateside and internationally, many in excess of $100 million. She’s currently the CEO of Dynamic Vision International — a specialized consulting and training firm that helps individuals hone negotiation skills — as well as a nationally regarded keynote speaker, session leader and panelist on the Art of Negotiation. Eldonna may be reached online at

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