Mastery Monday – Surround Yourself With People Who Hold You To a Higher Standard

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I was working on a magazine article about self leadership and this is one of the points I talk about often. You have to be careful who you surround yourself with. Do you surround yourself with positive uplifting people that support you or people who don’t support you and bring you down?
Have you asked people for help? Do they help you or ignore you? Do the people you hang around have the same values that you do? Do they encourage you and give you positive feedback or do they criticize you and tear you down?
If the people you hang around ignore you, don’t have the same values you do and aren’t encouraging or uplifting to you, why are you hanging around them? You become what you associate with.
In my early adult life I made choices to be around people who put me down constantly. It was recreating what I heard in my childhood that I was no good. I believed I was no good so I found people that made sure that belief was solidified.
The imprint period of our lives if from 0-7 years old and what we are imprinted with we take into our adult life. If you were imprinted with negative things you have to do some work to re-imprint yourself with something positive so you see yourself as the amazing person God created.
My foundation is in my faith in God through my relationship with Jesus. However, faith didn’t miraculously take away the things that were imprinted on me. I had to work through all that pain and realize that I was worth more than the people I was associating myself with.
Take a look at the people in your life (we can’t choose our family of origin, but at some point we can choose to not associate with them if they are unkind to us). You may have to fire some people that don’t support you or you may just have to have a conversation with them to let them know how you feel.
Bottom line, surround yourself with people who hold you to a higher standard, not bring you down.
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Eldonna Lewis Fernandez
Veteran negotiation and contracts expert Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of “Think Like a Negotiator,” has over 30 years of experience crafting killer deals both stateside and internationally, many in excess of $100 million. She’s currently the CEO of Dynamic Vision International — a specialized consulting and training firm that helps individuals hone negotiation skills — as well as a nationally regarded keynote speaker, session leader and panelist on the Art of Negotiation. Eldonna may be reached online at

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